Seven years ago, I received a diagnosis of pre-cell cancer, which was the stage right before stage 1 cancer. Since that time, my focus has been on uncovering the reasons behind illness. The insights I gained have transformed my perspective, and I am now committed to sharing this knowledge through my posts and my professional work.
But let's be honest, what I understand is the top of the top of the iceberg! I also learned that healing is a journey, not a goal.
Healing is discovering who we truly are beneath these layers of pain and suffering.
Every week I go deeper within and unravel new layers of pain and misery I created "unconsciously' from my past.
What I am certain of is that I am infinitely grateful for the difficult experiences I had, because it helps me to become a better person every day. The person I was 10 years ago is now an old version, it doesn't exist. And the person I will become will hopefully be another better version of who I am today.
The more you learn about yourself, the humbler and more honest you become to yourself and others.
As a therapist, I believe it is very important to be aware that we are in constant evolution, and we should never take for granted what we 'know'. Knowledge evolves with our degree of consciousness. I believe this is why we often say elder people become wiser. Every experience in life is an opportunity to discover our TRUE NATURE.
When I receive people for a treatment, I see very quickly how much the person is ready to heal.
Very often, we want a quick fix. We want someone to come, 'fix us' and then we move on in our life without any second thought.
We don't want to change. It is too hard, it involves too many changes in our lives, we only want the magic wand. What we don't understand is that pain is a messenger. If we haven't truly understood the message, the pain will come back. Maybe somewhere else or in a different form, but it will come back sooner or later, and usually, it comes back more aggressively.
The body by nature is in homeostasis (self-regulating process by which biological systems tend to maintain stability while adjusting to conditions that are optimal for survival). It is always searching for equilibrium. But our mind, our history, our life get in the way and create some interferences leading to unbalances. Overtime, the body natural healing power gets tired, overwhelmed because of this constant 'fight' to regain balance. The body then drops its natural immune system, this is when disease is created.
Why do we have different type of diseases?
In Chinese medicine, organs have different attributes and roles. They are also usually linked to emotions. While the mind is a giant library of billions of neurons acting as 'bookkeepers', the sensations created from each memory is stored by the body as emotions.
Depending on our history and personality, we will naturally incline toward certain emotions such as anger, sadness, guilt, shame, blame... They will be stored in the organs, and if not released, overtime, it will spread into other parts of the body.
Because of these differences in our lives and the way we decide to perceive our 'reality', and the way we use our body, we will develop weakness in some organs or body part.
Let's take an example. If someone has been adopted young, they may suffer from a feeling of abandonment, and someone else may lose trust in people. If for the first person, abandonment is unconsciously created, it may affect the breathing of the person (lungs). If for the second person there is a loss of trust, it may create outburst of anger and rejection (liver). The first person may create asthma and the second skin disorders. Once again, they are examples. It is just to show you how our physical body may react.
The books "the body keep the score" from Bessel Van Der Kock or "Heal your body" from Louise hay are interesting books talking about this subject.
Can we heal from diseases?
This is a good question we should ask ourselves. If we ask ourselves this question, this means a part of us wants to stop being a victim of the circumstances and decide to look for answers outside of the box.
Think about it for a moment. If your body has for role to keep homeostasis, it means, somewhere, in our past we have created the perfect 'cocktail' to create a disease.
Then it could potentially be reversed!
But this will take time because we have created a personality and a life based on our beliefs from the past.
The beliefs can be "I have been abandoned, so I am not lovable" - "my ex cheated on me, humiliated me, abused me. All my new partners abuse me, I lost complete trust in them, I am angry at them" - "I have been bullied at school, I lost self-confidence, now I have anxiety".
I could keep going, the list is infinite. I hope you start to see a pattern for yourself.
Ask yourself these questions:
What are my strongest negative emotions? (observe your memories, see the common thread).
What memory from the past I hold again and again? (do you still think of your ex, your old boss, your parents, the bullies?).
How does those old memories impact my life today?
You see, when you are constantly in your past, you create your future based on this past. You are never present. It is impossible. You have too many thoughts firing in your brain of the worst-case scenario.
To start healing, it demands a commitment to self. It means we make a conscious decision to dive into the unknown. The unknown is creating a new personality. Becoming who we want to be.
For that, we must be willing to let go of the old self, the stories of the past, the ex, the bullies, the traumas... everything. As long as you hold onto it, YOU CANNOT HEAL.
Behind any traumatic memory are held a multitude of emotions. They act as a shield. All your life, you attached yourself to these emotions. They became part of your identity. It is hard to break through, because you need to learn to detach yourself from it.
One of the easiest ways to start changing is to become an observer. Like a third person.
I love using the analogy of the director of your own film:
All your life you were an actor, acting a certain way. Suddenly your perspective change to the director. A movie director is not caught onto the emotion. He observes the play of the character. He can see the scene from a detached point of view. Then this director can tell his actor to ACT DIFFERENTLY and INCARNATE a new character.
In my hypno-coaching session I can see when the switch happens. It is really hard for the mind who has been used to behave a certain way for so long, to suddenly drop everything it knows and surrender to the unknown. Yet, THIS IS THE KEY.
I invite you to watch Dr Joe Dispenza's work who dedicated his life to show people how to become a new and better version of yourself.
Here is one of the hundreds of videos and interviews with Dr Joe Dispenza.
I hope this helped you to see the potential you have to heal yourself and start to understand your unconscious patterns holding you back from being this new person.
We are all worthy of being happy.
Images:
Photo 1 by Hal Gatewood on Unsplash
Photo 2 by Hal Gatewood on Unsplash
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